for couples, poly partners + individuals
PEMBERLEY VANDER LINDEN COUNSELING WEST SEATTLE + RENTON
Open Minded, Practical and Badass Therapy
Most human problems stem from feelings of isolation, fear, and shame. It is through connection—being truly seen and heard—that we are able to grow away from places of profound hurt. Each and everyone one of us are born good, but over time our experiences have taught us to mistrust our innate goodness. Counseling is a process of reclaiming our awareness that we are inherently good and reaching beyond isolation. In my office that means (at your comfort level of course) sometimes swearing, yelling and generally actively fighting negative thoughts to remember you are good.
If you want to nerd out over psychotherapy terms - read on! My theoretical orientation is rooted in systems therapy, attachment theory, and object relations. I take into consideration the complexities of our relationships to our earliest memories, families, self, and the world around us. I pay particular attention to the impact of your unique cultural background and the intersection of these experiences.
I listen to your story to help you make connections between reoccurring patterns. Oftentimes I will ask you stop and connect to what you are saying (what is happening in your body? what are you feeling as you speak to the story?) I call this "Feeling your Feelz." Additionally, we will work together to highlight your strengths and examine other lenses to view your life.
I make use of humor and experiential exercises. I will both support and push you to make the changes you want in your life.
In couples work, I focus on how the unique experience of our childhood plays on in our present relationship(s). Frequently, there are parts of us that long for closeness, while at the same time we fear or mistrust this same deeper level of intimacy. With my couples I address communication, fighting fair, getting out of a stuck place while learning how to better care for ourselves so we can show up for our partner(s).
Therapy is a relationship. As human beings we build trust over time.
I go at your pace as you unfold your life experiences in the presence of another human.
You always have the right to take care of yourself and "pass" on any question or exercise I suggest.
We live in a culture that does not teach us how to do relationships to others or ourselves very well. This gets us stuck in less than pleasant cycles.
Sometimes we need a (supportive) kick in the pants to call out our BS that is keeping us stuck.
We are all doing the best we can at any given moment.
You are inherently good (yes even you).
I am fully licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Washington State (LF60267695). I been helping people professionally since 2008. I am also a State Approved Supervisor.
I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling from Antioch University in Seattle and Bachelor's of Science in Applied Developmental Psych from Eastern Washington University. The highlight reel of my additional post graduate education is in the clinical treatment of Internalized Oppression, Acceptance and Commitment Psychotherapy (ACT) and Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
I have lived in the PNW since I was 12, when my military family was stationed in the region. I enjoy reading, devouring podcasts/audiobooks while quilting and generally making all the things. My three cats typically assist in supervising the aforementioned making of the things.
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